Career planning

I would like to say I have been productive recently. That I have achieved high levels of work and done more than before. I would love to be able to give you a 10-step list with something that will help you out today.

I can’t do that unfortunately.

What I have been thinking of recently – between my slightly melancholy moods – is about what I should do with after I am done with university, and why I have not enjoyed it. Perhaps my last post regarding university was written in a moment of undeserved frustration.

I believe I have discovered two things:

1. Don’t plan too much.
2. Don’t take things too seriously.
   

The fallacy of planning
I came across a psychology study regarding how people choose things in advance. It was regarding sandwiches.

The study involved two groups of people and their lunches. One group had to choose their lunch menu for the week. The other group chose whatever they wanted on the day. What the study found out was that for the people who chose in advance, they assumed they wanted variety. For the people who chose on the day, they tended to stick with the same sandwich every time over the week.

And guess which group were the least happy? The variety group!

The same could be said with planning a career. Perhaps it is better to take it as it comes as opposed to trying to figure out some grand plan.

I think not following the above is likely to result in general unhappiness. So I have a new ‘plan’, which is in essence, a plan not to plan.

Devil’s Advocate – planning skills
What I do think is useful however is to plan to learn new skills and new experiences. The new skills should be learnt through the new experiences – in essence, the skills gained should be a welcome side effect to the things you tried out.
As a result, I think I will try and seek out the following experiences over the next year:

• Learn skydiving – not just one jump, but a series of jumps.
• Get back into scuba diving – take a holiday somewhere cool.
• Get my motorcycle licence – and maybe go touring round Europe.
• Set something up and let it grow on its own – I have no idea what yet, but it could be anything from a business venture to social entrepreneurship.

If you’ve got any suggestions as to what I should add to this list, do let me know!

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Giving from your Source

I haven't meditated for a while. But I've just finished. At the moment, I still feel conscious, although I may have to stop writing on moments if my ego rises again.

As I meditate, I usually direct the sense of warmness within myself. I realise I have been wrong in this respect. This time, I tried to project my sense of warmness out, and I had an amazing feeling of both mental calm and a physical feeling of warmth almost feel like it was glowing out of my chest.

Give from your truly conscious Love.
Give your gift in everything. Feel that warm feeling in your chest when your ego melts and your consciousness radiates in giving.
Give your mind knowledge, but do not let it rule.
Give your body strength and food - but let not a lack of anything trouble your Love or disturb you from your consciousness.
Give your soul to all and give your love freely.

I can understand now why the dozens of women I've managed to attract have not actually slept with me. The reason is, in a true and real sense, that they detected I was unconscious. And being unconscious, you cannot give your love in a real and honest way. Sure - this doesn't apply to the one night stands where both persons are unconscious. But in real, passionate love - the consciousness is definitely there. You know it because you almost feel your souls melt into each other, and even if you split up you are always left with a piece of yourself given and a piece of them received.

Why psychology may fail you...

Source: Fart Party

I thought this was funny. Enjoy!

Lessons on women

This post is going to be very honest, and not so academic as my others
have tended to be in the past. If you cannot deal with the inner
workings of the male mind, I suggest you do not read any further.

On Friday night I decided to go out. I was really up for having a
crazy time. To put it short, I met a gorgeous cute blonde American
girl. We ended up making out. She got very horny. I got very horny. I
even considered fucking her outdoors (maybe I should have done). But
rather than being a real man - that is, controlling my horniness and
not letting it control me, I was drunk and unable to control myself.

She saw that, and so I didn't get her home, despite my physical persistence.

What does this tell me?

1. As a man, I need to be in control of my horniness. If the girl gets
horny, you control her and do not let her horniness win. Dominance
isn't just about pinning a girl to the wall and ordering her to submit
(which they often do). It's about leading an interaction in a cool,
controlled way.
2. Add value. Your social presence should make people feel good. And
that's with anybody you talk to - whether it's your date or the guy
behind the supermarket till.
3. Don't be afraid of what people think about you. Chances are they
like you for being authentic than being fake.

I'll think more about this later.